How do you break free from a toxic obsession? To quench a lustful voraciousness for revenge from someone that has wronged you? What deliberate virtue can you invoke to dissipate such a vindictive behavior? What distractions can you implore to rid yourself of such antagonistic fantasies fueled by perpetual anger and disdain?
Because let’s face it, there are days when you can feel yourself almost losing to the precarious demons inside your head. The absence of power to control the situation and the lack of submissiveness from your target only results to the insecurities brimming to the surface that further entices the malignant emotions boiling within. The firm grasp in your resolve to abandon these ludicrous thoughts, quickly depleting as you feel your emotions betraying you and clouding your judgement.
“to exact punishment or expiation for a wrong on behalf of, especially in a resentful or vindictive spirit” – Dictionary.com
It is a lost cause that only perpetuates internal negativity and subliminal self-loathing as you struggle to come to terms of why a trusted individual has betrayed you. And any action purposefully performed to grab their attention that is ignored only disappoints, further spiraling the unhealthy ill-will towards the other party. The insufficiency in reaction continually heightens the dissatisfaction, paving poisonous thoughts that cloud sound and logical decisions. Countless hours in the days are wasted plotting. Plotting that will fail and amount to nothing. And if you happen to be one of the unlucky ones that actually elicit an even more malevolent reaction from your demeaning solicitation, it will be an even larger regret. Revenge, after all, is dangerous to all, but most lethal to the attacker.
It is pointless.
It is unnecessary.
And completely irrevocable.
A helpless act of childish improprieties that will benefit neither parties. And albeit the temporary satisfaction it invokes, it is neither perpetually relieving nor enlightening. Instead continually and undeniably haunting.
So despite the lust for exoneration, avoid falling into such a hellish pitfall. For vindictive behavior is the Achilles heel to the best revenge—which is truly living a happy and prosperous life.
As cliche as it sounds, immersing yourself in a healthy passion, rekindling the spark of something that once propelled your ambition towards improving your own welfare, is the ultimate solution. The moment you decide to focus on what you can control versus what you want to control, which is your attitude and not their’s, you will feel a release from the negative hold that has loomed over your mind…and ultimately your heart.
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