SOMETIMES WE EXPECT MORE FROM OTHER PEOPLE BECAUSE WE ARE WILLING TO DO THAT MUCH FOR THEM
A friend once revealed that she no longer expected anything from anyone to avoid the reality of disappointment. She confessed that her lack of expectations contributed a great deal to what she delineates a “stress-free” life. Professing that the less you expect from people, the lower your chances of getting hurt are. Although that may hold some truth, it’s an inaccurate statement in which such actions can actually be a harmful disintegration to an amazing and fruitful life. There are a multitude of reasons as to why we shouldn’t lose expectations; one above all:
The absence of expectations equate to an insufficient barometer of value.
Expectations are the basis for how we value ourselves. It is a contributing factor on what we believe we deserve—whether that is from ourselves or from others. If we abandon the idea of expectations, then we are abandoning the concept of standards. Zero expectations equals zero standards. Which, in my personal opinion, indicates a direct correlation to devaluing yourself to deserving nothing above mediocre.
It may occur to some as a “bullshit” philosophy but expectations bare fruit to a preeminent life. It sets a precedence of how you live and validates our tolerance for what serves us. Don’t misunderstand though. This does not propagate that we should have extremely unrealistic and grandeur expectations because that is just deluding ourselves. Instead, it supports the perspective that expectations are necessary in life. That if we are willing to have what some may consider as lofty expectations, we must then be willing to do everything in our power to fulfill those great expectations at all costs. Expectations is what helps motivate our ambitions and drive results.
Expect the best because you deserve the best.
Look at the glass half full instead of half empty. The greatest leaders always expected the best from others which subsequently pushed their subordinates and peers to achieve fulfilling those great expectations. One of the most formidable examples can be seen with the late Steve Jobs. If you are familiar with his former Chief Evangelist, Guy Kawasaki, he—on numerous speeches—has referenced Steve Jobs’ tenacity and tendency to work his employees to the bone. Kawasaki has admitted how working for Jobs was “a pain in the ass” but if not for his demanding work ethic, Apple wouldn’t be where it is today. Not only that, but because he expected the best, he got the best—and along the way garnered an unbelievable amount of success and respect to those around him including Guy himself. Guy Kawasaki also confessed that because of Jobs’ almost unrealistic expectations, he was able to bring out the best in Guy. This allowed the former Chief Evangelist of Apple to do things that even he didn’t know he was capable of doing until Jobs pushed him to do so.
As we can see, expectations are not the enemy but allies that can help propel not only our character development, but those around us as well. Don’t mistake great expectations as fallacy nor let the disappointment of others’ incompetence block your vision to others’ potential. Like the core message of The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, utilize the reinforcement of positive affinities to your advantage. In alignment with the law of attraction, think that your expectations are plausible and the forces around you will then harness such a manifestation.
Believe and you shall receive.
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