DON’T GET ME WRONG. YOU STILL MEAN THE WORLD TO ME, YOU’RE JUST NOT WORTH THE FIGHT ANYMORE.
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There are times when we will be faced with an ultimatum in which we have to decide whether or not the pursuit of a certain goal is truly worth the time, energy, money (sometimes even heartache), and be okay with that decision. We have to weigh both the pros and cons of the circumstance and really understand how well we can handle the consequences of each side of the spectrum. Sometimes, continuing to engage can make us succumb to irrational improprieties while the same could be argued if we surrendered that conquest.
So how do we decide?
…When enough is enough…
From personal experience, I’ve found myself always asking these three questions to come to a conclusion:
1. Does it make you a better person?
When analyzing your current situation, take a moment to look at yourself. Look at your behavior. Are your friends and family complaining that you have become a different person (and not in a good way)? Have you become irritable, negative, and secluded yourself? Or has everyone around you noticed how much more uplifting you’ve become and that your perseverance have inspired them to attain their own goals? If you relate more to the former questions, then you will want to re-evaluate your priority. Turning antagonistic is never worth the pursuit of anything, especially anyone.
2. Is it the first and the last thought of your day?
This question is a bit of a double-edged sword. As they say, “Never give up on something you can’t go a day without thinking about.” However, if a certain goal (or a certain person) is on your mind constantly, inspect whether those thoughts drift to a positive affinity or a negative connotation. Do you ponder about how to inflict revenge or reminisce on how amazing that person is? Are you continually pessimistic in your thoughts or do you have pleasant nostalgia that motivates you to acquire that previous elated feeling because it brought happiness? If the latter is closer, then seek ways to overcome the trials and tribulations. There is nothing more miserable than living in regret of abandoning something you know is worth the fight.
3. Did you/are you questioning your initial choice?
Do you find yourself questioning your own decision? —creating scenarios in your head of how different the outcome would be if you made the opposite choice? If so, it’s never too late to make a change. If this is the case, life is too short to be prideful and live in denial, so apologize and take the chance of fixing what was broken. Not everything is broken beyond repair.
As a rule of thumb, follow your instincts.
In the end, know that some things are worth letting go and some things are worth fighting for. If you question your own decision, then re-strategize. Don’t succumb to false idealism. Make smart choices and move on from anything that presents you with empty promises and no longer propels you to become a better person.
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- How to Get Lucky – Success is partly luck, and mostly action. In order to get lucky, you have to make yourself available.
- Not All That Glitters is Gold – Social media is everyone’s highlight reel; don’t get stuck in the smoke and mirrors.
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