BIRDS OF A FEATHER, FLOCK TOGETHER
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”Company, villainous company, shall be the spoil of me.” Shakespeare
Nothing hinders your ability to succeed and deters your acceleration to a prosperous life more than being surrounded by negative energy. It’s time to elevate your surroundings. Those that inflict a constant cynical perspective is a contagious form of malice that can be both intentional and unintentional. It can literally bog you down. This unfortunate aura can emanate from friends, families, significant others, strangers, and enemies alike. To increase the chances of demolishing this enmity, avoid collaborating with people that exude ill-intent and deliberately put themselves in situations that cause calamity. Cut them out of your life and, again…
ELEVATE YOUR SURROUNDINGS.
Strive to surround yourself with individuals who emit positive energies and produce outstanding results. Seek and learn from those who are more intelligent, more affluent, more charismatic, and overall have higher caliber than you to feed off their knowledge and wisdom. As I mentioned in a previous post, “Your exterior is an extension of who you are and where you want to be. So associate yourself with those you want to reflect.”
The people that surround you is a precise indication of the type of person you are and have allowed yourself to be. It’s not to say that you are an exact replica of your group of friends, however, the people that you allow in your inner circle is a large benefactor on how you portray yourself to the outside world. According to motivational speaker Jim Rohn, we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. As indicated in the Business Insider, “This relates to the law of averages, which is the theory that the result of any given situation will be the average of all outcomes.” So if your five average people are negative, it’s time to take a step back and reassess your associations. Now I’m not trying to promote spring cleaning your friendships, but instead provide insight on who and how you allow the people around you to affect your life because it can greatly determine your attitude.
It is imperative, in my opinion, to envelop and cultivate yourself with others who mirror your goals and aspirations while simultaneously being optimists and passionate about bettering themselves.
Don’t get me wrong, critics are essential to avoiding the pitfalls of false accolades and vanity, however, constant banter and pessimism is truly detrimental.
If you want to succeed and live an enriching life, abandon the negativity. Don’t abandon the people as you don’t want to burn bridges that you will later want to cross, but understand the consequences of allowing “Debbie-downers” to be a constant in your life as it can easily consume you. They resemble leeches. They will suck the energy out of you and are bane to a healthy, prosperous life. Know the difference between correlation and causation. After all, your ultimate responsibility is to yourself.
If you constantly question your current standard of living or have an insatiable longing to disaffiliate yourself from the lack of accomplishments or just current situation, then take a moment to look at your surroundings. Truly observe whether or not the people you spend time with is a direct reflection of who you want to embody.
- Do they radiate the characteristic traits that you would like to emanate?
- Did they accomplish goals or powerful milestones that you one day strive to achieve?
- Are they inspiring?
- Does their life motivate you to become diligent in your pursuit of a successful life?
- Is time with them well spent? —in a sense that it has taught you some valuable lesson? —even if it’s just graciousness or the adoption of finding the silver lining in all seemingly bad events.
If the answers are no, then elevate your surroundings.
Pursue and befriend your desired mentors or accomplished individuals who you desire to sit with and have an intellectual conversation. Those who are at the top of the pyramid have already had their fair share of disappointments and failures and are far passed the stages of remorseful reminiscing. So learn from their past mistakes and adopt their positive, laser focus outlook and rapacious hunger for advancement and success.
Look over the shoulders of giants. Never amongst the ants.
As Robert Greene delineates in his national bestseller, The 48 Laws of Power, “Never associate with those who share your defects – they will reinforce everything that holds you back. Only create associations with positive affinities. Make this a rule of life and you will benefit more than from all the therapy in the world.”
- Don’t Make Mountains Out of Molehills – Don’t be such a drama queen.
- 48 Laws of Power – The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene is the life book you need to succeed in anything you do.
- Keeping Motivated – Sometimes we hit a wall, but don’t ever forget why you started; always persevere.
- How to Get Lucky – Success is partly luck, and mostly action. In order to get lucky, you have to make yourself available.
- Not All That Glitters is Gold – Social media is everyone’s highlight reel; don’t get stuck in the smoke and mirrors.
Are you confident with your circle? Share your opinions and tag us at #conqueringWonderland!